Chivalry can be defined as gallant, gentlemanly behaviour. Now I am not interested in sparking off any feminists or stepping on anyone’s toes, but does it not feel like ‘chivalry’ is dying?
Some may even say that chivalry is already dead. This may not concern many, because the times have moved in such ways that the need to be chivalrous does not arise as often as one might imagine. Just the other day I was having a conversation with a friend and she did not see the chivalry in offering a seat to a lady. She felt that women are also capable of offering their seats to men. Would it not look rather laughable though? Have women considered offering their seats to men? I mean, it seems rather alien concept to me, but I suppose there is some merit in the idea. It is possible, I often offer my seat to the elderly, injured or a pregnant lady, but I have not yet offered my seat to a youth. Dare I offer my seat? Would they accept?
I would not say that I am the most travelled person but I have been to a few countries, and I have found that chivalry is (somehow) best suited to men. It’s definitely one of the ‘ticks’ in my list of ‘good manners’ in the potential ‘one’. Yes, it definitely impresses and brings a smile when people offer seats to others out of respect, concern, chivalrous behaviour etcetera. I am well aware there are men who are very respectful, and might constantly feel cursed due to their chivalrous behaviour, as it may be instilled in them from childhood. But the number of these men is constantly decreasing, especially as chivalry is seen as a burden
Chivalry is not limited to men only, I believe 'people' should be chivalrous, mannerful, polite, mindful and generous. All this is encompassed in one. In the modern day chivalry is eroding away very promptly and without even a backwards glance we are allowing this to happen. In the world of technology, where men no longer wear hats, and speaking to strangers is wrong, where neighbours are unknown, yet sitcom characters are befriended... This world does not have space for chivalry.
I am not willing to allow chivalry to leave so easily. It must be re-introduced in our lives, be it in a smile, an offering of a seat on a busy route to work or opening a door for a stranger. It is after all the small things that count in life. It is what makes us all every day heroes, and goodness is retained in our lives, one chivalrous act at a time.